Its hard to find a GOOD man!
15 Mar
It is so hard to find a man! Every man has heard a woman say that at one point or another. However, at the same time a woman will tell you that she has no problem getting asked out on dates. So being confused, as anyone would be,you ask them to clear up the obvious contradiction. Women will tell you its not hard to find a man but its hard finding a GOOD man. So the next obvious question is whats a GOOD man? Someone that will treat you right and someone can fall in love with. Ok, a good man is the man that will treat you right and someone you can fall in love with. Why is that so hard to find? You would think it should be rather easy to find. Many men want someone to love and want respect as well. So finding someone who loves you should be rather easy. However it really not that easy.
I am a firm believer that your life is the sum total of the choices you have made. Many women end up with bad men not because the men are bad but because women make bad choices when they are looking for something good. Can a woman think a man is good but all of a sudden he turns around, betrays your trust and hurts you out of the blue. Yes that can happen. My point is many times you can’t find a GOOD man because you really don’t know how to choose a good man. When someone says I want a GOOD man, just ask them what is a good man? If they say anything like “Someone I can love” , “Someone that will treat me right and with respect” , you have a problem right there. Shouldn’t every woman want a man to treat them well and with respect? Of course. Shouldn’t all women want to find someone they can fall in love with and have a family? Of course. However, when a woman says that she is speaking about her desires for him. She is not talking about what that man is. Is he a man honest man when you are not around? Who gives a damn if the man is honest with you but lies to everyone else. A liar is a liar. Is he a thoughtful man when you are not around? Does he care about HIS family? Does he look after his grandparents? Does he care about HIS community? Do other people know him as respectful when you are not around. Too many women based they relationships based on how they are treated in the relationship. You may say “If he treats me right why does it matter what else he does.” What the man does when you are not around is who he really is. The measure of the goodness of a man is in what he does with everyone and everything in his life that nothing to do with you! Men and women can put on their best face when they are trying to get someone. However, after he gets you it wont be long before they way he treats everything in his life except you, will soon include you. Then all of a sudden he is a jerk! I thought he was different. I didn’t know he had these problems. Blah, blah, blah.
The truth is you are looking in the wrong place to find a GOOD man. You don’t have to ask many questions because people lie anyway. You have to be very observant to see the GOOD he does that nothing to do with you. If he does good without you, he will be good to you!! Then you will have a much better chance of finding a GOOD man.
