A Tiger never changes his stripes!

I know by know that everybody has jumped in on the Tiger Woods drama.   I’m not here to bash Tiger actually quite the opposite.  First and foremost, unless you know Tiger and his family personally, you really don’t know what is going on.    I don’t care what the media reports.   Most of us know that a marriage is hardly ever black and white.  Most of the time, many of them exist in the gray area.

I have heard many women say Tiger should never have cheated.  I think he should have never gotten married in the first place!  First, we are talking about TIGER WOODS not Bob from accounting or Mike from the block.  I think its safe to say that he lives in a different world than most of us will ever know.  A world where just about anything he wants he can have and the temptation level is high 24 hours a day.  So when your in a position like that you have to understand who you are before you get married or in a relationship.  Forget about Tiger, many men and women are in relationships for reasons other than true commitment.  Many of us  set up  “self made disguises” to hide who we really are to be in a situation we think is right.

That’s where the problem starts.  You may want to be with someone who you know is a great person and would make a great companion. However,  in your heart, you are not at a place where you can be what THEY want.  So you disguise yourself to become what they want so you can be with a person.   For example, you are the party girl who has never found the right kind of man.  A man comes along, who doesn’t party, but is everything you want in a man.  However, you still like the party life.  So what do you do? You put on your disguise to make it work because you know he is a “good” man.  Now you have a conflict set up inside yourself because you not being yourself.  You are becoming  what you think you “should” be.   Now you have started to lie to yourself.  You will never be successful lying to yourself!

Everyday men and women  find people to be with in there lives and make this mistake. A woman who starts to become what she “thinks” is the type of woman her man wants.  Not who she really is.  A man who doesn’t really want to marry his girlfriend but does out of an obligation he feels  because they have been dating for years.   The truth is that a relationship/marriage is like a truth serum.  No matter how hard you try,  you can never hide from yourself!  You can only have a good relationship/marriage by being yourself and telling the truth.  What happens when people live a lie? People will do things to cope with the lie such as cheating , drinking , smoking, drugs, etc, etc, etc.   Why? Because a Tiger can never change his stripes and you can’t be any other person  other than the person you are!