She Wants Out and I Don’t – Now What?

What do you do when your spouse wants out of the marriage and you don’t? This is sadly the case in a lot of marriages today. People get married thinking, expecting and hoping it’ll last a life time and one day that dream becomes a nightmare when they’re faced with the realization that their spouse wants out.

A part of marriage is going through good times and bad times, lows and highs, but the idea is to stick it out and see your way through. But, when you’re the only one who even wants to see the marriage thrive, what are you supposed to do? How long are you supposed to hang in there? How long are you supposed to eat, live and sleep with someone who wants to cut you out of their life? How long are you expected to beg your spouse to work on your marriage? These are some difficult questions; especially for the person who’s wondering these things for him or herself.

The reality is you cannot force someone to care about their marriage and you definitely can’t force someone to stay in a marriage if they would rather be free. You can stay in the marriage always wondering if she’ll change her mind and want the marriage again or stay in the marriage in a state of panic wondering when she’s going to say those three horrible words; I’m Leaving You. It’s really a hard call. No matter who decides to call it quits and when; in all honesty, the only thing you can do is do your part and hold up your end of the bargain to the very end.

Have you ever been in this type of situation? What did you do? What would you if you were married and your spouse told you they wanted to be free?