Comments on: Can You Handle Dating a Mama’s Boy? http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/ exploring the ins & outs of love, dating, marriage and sex Mon, 16 Jan 2012 14:10:30 -0500 hourly 1 By: Cutiepie http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-185 Cutiepie Mon, 16 Jan 2012 14:10:30 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-185 I just split up with my mothers boy last night.......im heartbroken we have split but i could not continue playing second fiddle any longer!  He is 46 and lives 2 mins from his mother, also stays there sometimes.  I called him 10 days ago at 6 pm to tell him i was threatening a miscarriage, he was at his mothers house and because she had had a fall that day he decided he was going to stay with her as she couldnt be left on her own!...His sister lives 5 minutes away, she could have went to sit with mother.  anyway i called him at midnight crying as i had lost the baby, he was now back in his own flat, because he didnt want his mother disturbed during the night if i called him!!!!!  I was obviously very upset and when he did eventually come over after i had asked him to, i told him i felt let down and abandoned and he just said i obviously was very insecure!!!!!  To make matters worse i actually began to believe him (i am 40 and should know better!)  Lots of silly things have been happening and i have just been pretending everything is ok, but yesterday i could no longer pretend.  I hadnt seen him for 6 days cos he was busy with his mother and doing other stuff, we had arranged to meet on Thursday for an hour when i finished work for a coffee but he cancelled cos he had been out all day shopping with his mother.  So on Sat when he turned up at my house i was really happy to see him because i do love him, Sat night was great and he stayed over.  He is going for a disciplinary in work on Tues so we were discussing this yesterday morning , and it looks like he is going to lose his job which in turn will mean losing his car etc, anyway he asked if he does lose his job can he get put on my insurance to drive my car as he will need it to get his mum about!!!!!!!! i just started laughing because i couldnt quite believe it, then we went for a small walk and got back to mines about 2 in the afternoon, he had a coffee then said he was going to see his mother and also could he take the breadsticks and dips that had been unopened the night before as his mother loves them!!...... At this point i was sooo angry i left the room, he didnt actually take anything but i walked him to the door and said goodbye, i felt very sad as i knew that it was now over and that i couldnt take anymore.  I took the cowards way out and sent him a text last night telling him it was over, this is not an option i took lightly but the last time i tried to end it due to this behaviour he turned it all on me, this time i wasnt giving him a chance to do that.  From day one he told me he loved his mother unconditionally and that she was the most important person in his life, i had actually thought it was very sweet and found it an attractive quality!!!....<br><br> I just split up with my mothers boy last night…….im heartbroken we have split but i could not continue playing second fiddle any longer!  He is 46 and lives 2 mins from his mother, also stays there sometimes.  I called him 10 days ago at 6 pm to tell him i was threatening a miscarriage, he was at his mothers house and because she had had a fall that day he decided he was going to stay with her as she couldnt be left on her own!…His sister lives 5 minutes away, she could have went to sit with mother.  anyway i called him at midnight crying as i had lost the baby, he was now back in his own flat, because he didnt want his mother disturbed during the night if i called him!!!!!  I was obviously very upset and when he did eventually come over after i had asked him to, i told him i felt let down and abandoned and he just said i obviously was very insecure!!!!!  To make matters worse i actually began to believe him (i am 40 and should know better!)  Lots of silly things have been happening and i have just been pretending everything is ok, but yesterday i could no longer pretend.  I hadnt seen him for 6 days cos he was busy with his mother and doing other stuff, we had arranged to meet on Thursday for an hour when i finished work for a coffee but he cancelled cos he had been out all day shopping with his mother.  So on Sat when he turned up at my house i was really happy to see him because i do love him, Sat night was great and he stayed over.  He is going for a disciplinary in work on Tues so we were discussing this yesterday morning , and it looks like he is going to lose his job which in turn will mean losing his car etc, anyway he asked if he does lose his job can he get put on my insurance to drive my car as he will need it to get his mum about!!!!!!!! i just started laughing because i couldnt quite believe it, then we went for a small walk and got back to mines about 2 in the afternoon, he had a coffee then said he was going to see his mother and also could he take the breadsticks and dips that had been unopened the night before as his mother loves them!!…… At this point i was sooo angry i left the room, he didnt actually take anything but i walked him to the door and said goodbye, i felt very sad as i knew that it was now over and that i couldnt take anymore.  I took the cowards way out and sent him a text last night telling him it was over, this is not an option i took lightly but the last time i tried to end it due to this behaviour he turned it all on me, this time i wasnt giving him a chance to do that.  From day one he told me he loved his mother unconditionally and that she was the most important person in his life, i had actually thought it was very sweet and found it an attractive quality!!!….

]]> By: Guest http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-186 Guest Mon, 16 Jan 2012 14:09:28 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-186 I just split up with my mothers boy last night.......im heartbroken we have split but i could not continue playing second fiddle any longer!  He is 46 and lives 2 mins from his mother, also stays there sometimes.  I called him 10 days ago at 6 pm to tell him i was threatening a miscarriage, he was at his mothers house and because she had had a fall that day he decided he was going to stay with her as she couldnt be left on her own!...His sister lives 5 minutes away, she could have went to sit with mother.  anyway i called him at midnight crying as i had lost the baby, he was now back in his own flat, because he didnt want his mother disturbed during the night if i called him!!!!!  I was obviously very upset and when he did eventually come over after i had asked him to, i told him i felt let down and abandoned and he just said i obviously was very insecure!!!!!  To make matters worse i actually began to believe him (i am 40 and should know better!)  Lots of silly things have been happening and i have just been pretending everything is ok, but yesterday i could no longer pretend.  I hadnt seen him for 6 days cos he was busy with his mother and doing other stuff, we had arranged to meet on Thursday for an hour when i finished work for a coffee but he cancelled cos he had been out all day shopping with his mother.  So on Sat when he turned up at my house i was really happy to see him because i do love him, Sat night was great and he stayed over.  He is going for a disciplinary in work on Tues so we were discussing this yesterday morning , and it looks like he is going to lose his job which in turn will mean losing his car etc, anyway he asked if he does lose his job can he get put on my insurance to drive my car as he will need it to get his mum about!!!!!!!! i just started laughing because i couldnt quite believe it, then we went for a small walk and got back to mines about 2 in the afternoon, he had a coffee then said he was going to see his mother and also could he take the breadsticks and dips that had been unopened the night before as his mother loves them!!...... At this point i was sooo angry i left the room, he didnt actually take anything but i walked him to the door and said goodbye, i felt very sad as i knew that it was now over and that i couldnt take anymore.  I took the cowards way out and sent him a text last night telling him it was over, this is not an option i took lightly but the last time i tried to end it due to this behaviour he turned it all on me, this time i wasnt giving him a chance to do that.  From day one he told me he loved his mother unconditionally and that she was the most important person in his life, i had actually thought it was very sweet and found it an attractive quality!!!....<br><br> I just split up with my mothers boy last night…….im heartbroken we have split but i could not continue playing second fiddle any longer!  He is 46 and lives 2 mins from his mother, also stays there sometimes.  I called him 10 days ago at 6 pm to tell him i was threatening a miscarriage, he was at his mothers house and because she had had a fall that day he decided he was going to stay with her as she couldnt be left on her own!…His sister lives 5 minutes away, she could have went to sit with mother.  anyway i called him at midnight crying as i had lost the baby, he was now back in his own flat, because he didnt want his mother disturbed during the night if i called him!!!!!  I was obviously very upset and when he did eventually come over after i had asked him to, i told him i felt let down and abandoned and he just said i obviously was very insecure!!!!!  To make matters worse i actually began to believe him (i am 40 and should know better!)  Lots of silly things have been happening and i have just been pretending everything is ok, but yesterday i could no longer pretend.  I hadnt seen him for 6 days cos he was busy with his mother and doing other stuff, we had arranged to meet on Thursday for an hour when i finished work for a coffee but he cancelled cos he had been out all day shopping with his mother.  So on Sat when he turned up at my house i was really happy to see him because i do love him, Sat night was great and he stayed over.  He is going for a disciplinary in work on Tues so we were discussing this yesterday morning , and it looks like he is going to lose his job which in turn will mean losing his car etc, anyway he asked if he does lose his job can he get put on my insurance to drive my car as he will need it to get his mum about!!!!!!!! i just started laughing because i couldnt quite believe it, then we went for a small walk and got back to mines about 2 in the afternoon, he had a coffee then said he was going to see his mother and also could he take the breadsticks and dips that had been unopened the night before as his mother loves them!!…… At this point i was sooo angry i left the room, he didnt actually take anything but i walked him to the door and said goodbye, i felt very sad as i knew that it was now over and that i couldnt take anymore.  I took the cowards way out and sent him a text last night telling him it was over, this is not an option i took lightly but the last time i tried to end it due to this behaviour he turned it all on me, this time i wasnt giving him a chance to do that.  From day one he told me he loved his mother unconditionally and that she was the most important person in his life, i had actually thought it was very sweet and found it an attractive quality!!!….

]]> By: Donnasim21@hotmail.com http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-187 Donnasim21@hotmail.com Mon, 16 Jan 2012 14:08:37 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-187 I just split up with my mothers boy last night.......im heartbroken we have split but i could not continue playing second fiddle any longer!  He is 46 and lives 2 mins from his mother, also stays there sometimes.  I called him 10 days ago at 6 pm to tell him i was threatening a miscarriage, he was at his mothers house and because she had had a fall that day he decided he was going to stay with her as she couldnt be left on her own!...His sister lives 5 minutes away, she could have went to sit with mother.  anyway i called him at midnight crying as i had lost the baby, he was now back in his own flat, because he didnt want his mother disturbed during the night if i called him!!!!!  I was obviously very upset and when he did eventually come over after i had asked him to, i told him i felt let down and abandoned and he just said i obviously was very insecure!!!!!  To make matters worse i actually began to believe him (i am 40 and should know better!)  Lots of silly things have been happening and i have just been pretending everything is ok, but yesterday i could no longer pretend.  I hadnt seen him for 6 days cos he was busy with his mother and doing other stuff, we had arranged to meet on Thursday for an hour when i finished work for a coffee but he cancelled cos he had been out all day shopping with his mother.  So on Sat when he turned up at my house i was really happy to see him because i do love him, Sat night was great and he stayed over.  He is going for a disciplinary in work on Tues so we were discussing this yesterday morning , and it looks like he is going to lose his job which in turn will mean losing his car etc, anyway he asked if he does lose his job can he get put on my insurance to drive my car as he will need it to get his mum about!!!!!!!! i just started laughing because i couldnt quite believe it, then we went for a small walk and got back to mines about 2 in the afternoon, he had a coffee then said he was going to see his mother and also could he take the breadsticks and dips that had been unopened the night before as his mother loves them!!...... At this point i was sooo angry i left the room, he didnt actually take anything but i walked him to the door and said goodbye, i felt very sad as i knew that it was now over and that i couldnt take anymore.  I took the cowards way out and sent him a text last night telling him it was over, this is not an option i took lightly but the last time i tried to end it due to this behaviour he turned it all on me, this time i wasnt giving him a chance to do that.  From day one he told me he loved his mother unconditionally and that she was the most important person in his life, i had actually thought it was very sweet and found it an attractive quality!!!....<br><br> I just split up with my mothers boy last night…….im heartbroken we have split but i could not continue playing second fiddle any longer!  He is 46 and lives 2 mins from his mother, also stays there sometimes.  I called him 10 days ago at 6 pm to tell him i was threatening a miscarriage, he was at his mothers house and because she had had a fall that day he decided he was going to stay with her as she couldnt be left on her own!…His sister lives 5 minutes away, she could have went to sit with mother.  anyway i called him at midnight crying as i had lost the baby, he was now back in his own flat, because he didnt want his mother disturbed during the night if i called him!!!!!  I was obviously very upset and when he did eventually come over after i had asked him to, i told him i felt let down and abandoned and he just said i obviously was very insecure!!!!!  To make matters worse i actually began to believe him (i am 40 and should know better!)  Lots of silly things have been happening and i have just been pretending everything is ok, but yesterday i could no longer pretend.  I hadnt seen him for 6 days cos he was busy with his mother and doing other stuff, we had arranged to meet on Thursday for an hour when i finished work for a coffee but he cancelled cos he had been out all day shopping with his mother.  So on Sat when he turned up at my house i was really happy to see him because i do love him, Sat night was great and he stayed over.  He is going for a disciplinary in work on Tues so we were discussing this yesterday morning , and it looks like he is going to lose his job which in turn will mean losing his car etc, anyway he asked if he does lose his job can he get put on my insurance to drive my car as he will need it to get his mum about!!!!!!!! i just started laughing because i couldnt quite believe it, then we went for a small walk and got back to mines about 2 in the afternoon, he had a coffee then said he was going to see his mother and also could he take the breadsticks and dips that had been unopened the night before as his mother loves them!!…… At this point i was sooo angry i left the room, he didnt actually take anything but i walked him to the door and said goodbye, i felt very sad as i knew that it was now over and that i couldnt take anymore.  I took the cowards way out and sent him a text last night telling him it was over, this is not an option i took lightly but the last time i tried to end it due to this behaviour he turned it all on me, this time i wasnt giving him a chance to do that.  From day one he told me he loved his mother unconditionally and that she was the most important person in his life, i had actually thought it was very sweet and found it an attractive quality!!!….

]]> By: Tinabanbina http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-183 Tinabanbina Tue, 27 Dec 2011 05:42:09 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-183 please everyone read this book: <br>--When He's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment <br><br>by Kenneth Adams & Alexander P. Morgan <br><br>I came upon it when i googled in desperation about this very situation of "dating a momma's boy" because it's the saddest shit ever. This book helped me find my fucking sainty again. I will end it asap.<br> please everyone read this book: 
–When He's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment 

by Kenneth Adams & Alexander P. Morgan 

I came upon it when i googled in desperation about this very situation of “dating a momma's boy” because it's the saddest shit ever. This book helped me find my fucking sainty again. I will end it asap.

]]> By: Honey_buns11 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-182 Honey_buns11 Sun, 13 Nov 2011 05:53:56 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-182 OMG, i am engaged and we are both pretty young both almost 20 and his mother is a little to much. She will talk about how much he needs her and how he cannot live without her and how hes stuck on her tit forever. Well, he keeps talking about us getting our own place, but hasnt hasnt. so i finally got sick of his mothers mouth and said something to him. i threatned to leave him because i cant deal with his mothers comments. she will talk about how cute his butt is, and how he is just one good lookin man and if he wasnt her son shes be all over that. i find that weird. so he said something to his mother and now she is moving to a different state with her "crazy" boyfriend. did i mention his mom lies ALL the time. Anyways, his mom has been gone for 2 days and now he said he is all depressed cause he misses his mom. Seriously come  on, it makes me sick. o love him with all my heart but i dont want to deal with this mammas boy stuff. dont know what to do...... OMG, i am engaged and we are both pretty young both almost 20 and his mother is a little to much. She will talk about how much he needs her and how he cannot live without her and how hes stuck on her tit forever. Well, he keeps talking about us getting our own place, but hasnt hasnt. so i finally got sick of his mothers mouth and said something to him. i threatned to leave him because i cant deal with his mothers comments. she will talk about how cute his butt is, and how he is just one good lookin man and if he wasnt her son shes be all over that. i find that weird. so he said something to his mother and now she is moving to a different state with her “crazy” boyfriend. did i mention his mom lies ALL the time. Anyways, his mom has been gone for 2 days and now he said he is all depressed cause he misses his mom. Seriously come  on, it makes me sick. o love him with all my heart but i dont want to deal with this mammas boy stuff. dont know what to do……

]]> By: Brendaghenry40 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-179 Brendaghenry40 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 20:23:23 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-179 Look up covert incest, this is what I have been dealing with, a perfect text book definition. The good news is I have no intention of ever becoming serious with this man. His parents are both married in their mid 80s and he is in his 60s. He calls her constantly, they all vacation together 3 to 4 times per year. He was married for an entire 3 months and she left saying he was in love with his mom. She hates me because I don't worship the ground she walks on. I find the entire situation now, crazy. I'm as mean as possible to him, I ignore her, he tries to tell me what to do like his mom, I tell them both to eat shit, sick, yes. Its a real challenge and as I said, I don't care because I have no intention of ever, ever marrying them. Look up covert incest, this is what I have been dealing with, a perfect text book definition. The good news is I have no intention of ever becoming serious with this man. His parents are both married in their mid 80s and he is in his 60s. He calls her constantly, they all vacation together 3 to 4 times per year. He was married for an entire 3 months and she left saying he was in love with his mom. She hates me because I don't worship the ground she walks on. I find the entire situation now, crazy. I'm as mean as possible to him, I ignore her, he tries to tell me what to do like his mom, I tell them both to eat shit, sick, yes. Its a real challenge and as I said, I don't care because I have no intention of ever, ever marrying them.

]]> By: Fashionzone http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-178 Fashionzone Thu, 27 Oct 2011 14:41:15 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-178 I really do not truly have much to say in response, I only wanted to comment to reply great work I really do not truly have much to say in response, I only wanted to comment to reply great work

]]> By: Gigi http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-176 Gigi Thu, 01 Sep 2011 20:50:26 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-176 Your story sounds like one of my stories with my boyfriend.  YIKES!!  It is to the point that I'm ready to end it.  His mom is a nice lady but driving me absolutely crazy....I'll never be the #1 woman in my boyfriend's life.  I love him dearly and he treats me good but my tongue is bleeding too badly from biting my tongue all the time.  She tried inviting herself along on our first vacation together....thank god he said NO WAY!  But, he had to spend the entire week with her before we left and had to be with her the night before because she was crying he was going on vacation.  Good heavens!  What would it be like if we got married and left on our honeymoon.  It's hard to break up with a guy after you've invested a few years with him, but she needs to get a life (her husband is deceased) and my boyfriend needs to get some balls! Your story sounds like one of my stories with my boyfriend.  YIKES!!  It is to the point that I'm ready to end it.  His mom is a nice lady but driving me absolutely crazy….I'll never be the #1 woman in my boyfriend's life.  I love him dearly and he treats me good but my tongue is bleeding too badly from biting my tongue all the time.  She tried inviting herself along on our first vacation together….thank god he said NO WAY!  But, he had to spend the entire week with her before we left and had to be with her the night before because she was crying he was going on vacation.  Good heavens!  What would it be like if we got married and left on our honeymoon.  It's hard to break up with a guy after you've invested a few years with him, but she needs to get a life (her husband is deceased) and my boyfriend needs to get some balls!

]]> By: EK http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-174 EK Thu, 18 Aug 2011 04:02:04 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-174 I think I can relate. We are both Chinese and we are both close to our families so I really appreciated that similarity. However, in the past year, we went on holidays with his parents to where his mother had wanted to go because he begged me to go/ wanted me there and I had time off when they did. We had a great time, and I thought his parents were pretty cool and it was a good chance to get to know them better. However, I crave for alone time! He had professional exams, I arranged vacation time to be right after the exams so we could go somewhere together or just have a staycation at home, but his mother wanted to travel to Europe so off they went. This time I thought what the hell, I'd take my parents on a holiday. Came summer and I had time off, and kept suggesting doing this and that. He said he was not sure he had enough vacation time left. Next thing I know, he was off with his folks again for a week long holiday on the west coast. I mentioned it to him, said I felt neglected and he said he will sort it out... I was led to believe Christmas will be the time for us alone together... he just told me that he wants to take his parents to China and life is not about jumping on a plane together. Well, if it's not about spending leisure time togeter, then what is it all about??<br>I feel neglected; #2; plan B; he spends time with me to do things that he can't do with his folks. Am I being too needy? That I want a life partner, a significant other with whom to travel, to eat, to explore, to relax? Or is he a classic mama's boy - either I accept the situation or run? I think I can relate. We are both Chinese and we are both close to our families so I really appreciated that similarity. However, in the past year, we went on holidays with his parents to where his mother had wanted to go because he begged me to go/ wanted me there and I had time off when they did. We had a great time, and I thought his parents were pretty cool and it was a good chance to get to know them better. However, I crave for alone time! He had professional exams, I arranged vacation time to be right after the exams so we could go somewhere together or just have a staycation at home, but his mother wanted to travel to Europe so off they went. This time I thought what the hell, I'd take my parents on a holiday. Came summer and I had time off, and kept suggesting doing this and that. He said he was not sure he had enough vacation time left. Next thing I know, he was off with his folks again for a week long holiday on the west coast. I mentioned it to him, said I felt neglected and he said he will sort it out… I was led to believe Christmas will be the time for us alone together… he just told me that he wants to take his parents to China and life is not about jumping on a plane together. Well, if it's not about spending leisure time togeter, then what is it all about??
I feel neglected; #2; plan B; he spends time with me to do things that he can't do with his folks. Am I being too needy? That I want a life partner, a significant other with whom to travel, to eat, to explore, to relax? Or is he a classic mama's boy – either I accept the situation or run?

]]> By: Melissa http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/2009/07/03/can-you-handle-dating-a-mamas-boy/comment-page-1/#comment-171 Melissa Wed, 10 Aug 2011 04:11:08 +0000 http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com/?p=22#comment-171 I've been dating a mamma's boy for 3 1/2 years now. We both still live at home with our parents. My boyfriends mom & dad have been divorces since he was 3 and he doesn't have a good relationship with his dad at all.  I read many of the responses and man there are some psycho mothers out there! I think my boyfriends mom is a little more passive (less insane lol). My boyfriend is turning 24 in December she his mom cooks multiple meals for him a day, does his laundry (sheets included embarrassing!) AND puts it away too, cleans his room (which can be VERY embarrassing if I left some fancy lingerie or toys around), cleans the entire house (well, some areas just aren't clean so maybe I gave her too much credit), and yes people.. she still packs his lunch. Wow.<br><br>I'm turning 25 in October and I feel like I'm getting to the point where I want to begin settling down i my life. I'm done with the whole party scene I never really enjoyed staying out all night drinking. But... how can I ever move on with my life when I have such a motherly-dependent bf. <br><br>I once casually mentioned to his mother, "Well, I think he should do his own laundry!" she simple looked at me and shrugged. She never gets insane like some of these other moms I've been reading about but I still really dislike how she is not encouraging her son to grow up. It is a mother's DUTY to encourage her son/daughers to grow up and become independent so they can eventually move out & have a happy family.<br><br>When I confront my boyfriend about being a mammas boy he normally ignores it and his excuse for not doing his own laundry is: "We all have teamwork in this family, I pity you for never being able to experience teamwork.... mom does laundry, cooking, etc and I do other chores" <br><br>What chores?<br><br>I found out he occasionally puts the dishes away and mows the lawn some of the time.<br><br>That is NOT teamwork. That is NOT what I want to end up having to be if I were to ever marry this man. I refuse to replace his mother. What if his mother were to suddenly die, I don't think this man would be able to care for himself. How sad! I've been doing my own laundry since I was 14 along with other chores I take TURNS with my parents when it comes to cooking dinner and putting it away. THAT is teamwork. I realize my dad is getting old and his arthritis hurts him so I've taken over a couple of his usual chores. I get so mad when my boyfriend calls his deal "teamwork" BULL SHIT.<br><br>I even just now remember this one time about a year and a half ago I said it would have been fun if he could have stayed at my place for a couple weeks while I had my own apartment @ school. He said... he couldn't because it wouldn't be safe for his mom to be alone. WTF... they live in AMISH country and they don't even lock their doors. BS.<br><br>I've mentioned many many times to my boyfriend how I am not happy with how he just lets his mom do everything for him... at first I started off subtle just hinting but for the last couple years I've been very blunt with what I have to say. Other than being a mammas boy he is a great guy and maybe I just haven't broken up with him yet... hoping he will one day change if not slowly. So far no luck and I fear our relationship is nearing an end.<br><br><br><br> I've been dating a mamma's boy for 3 1/2 years now. We both still live at home with our parents. My boyfriends mom & dad have been divorces since he was 3 and he doesn't have a good relationship with his dad at all.  I read many of the responses and man there are some psycho mothers out there! I think my boyfriends mom is a little more passive (less insane lol). My boyfriend is turning 24 in December she his mom cooks multiple meals for him a day, does his laundry (sheets included embarrassing!) AND puts it away too, cleans his room (which can be VERY embarrassing if I left some fancy lingerie or toys around), cleans the entire house (well, some areas just aren't clean so maybe I gave her too much credit), and yes people.. she still packs his lunch. Wow.

I'm turning 25 in October and I feel like I'm getting to the point where I want to begin settling down i my life. I'm done with the whole party scene I never really enjoyed staying out all night drinking. But… how can I ever move on with my life when I have such a motherly-dependent bf.

I once casually mentioned to his mother, “Well, I think he should do his own laundry!” she simple looked at me and shrugged. She never gets insane like some of these other moms I've been reading about but I still really dislike how she is not encouraging her son to grow up. It is a mother's DUTY to encourage her son/daughers to grow up and become independent so they can eventually move out & have a happy family.

When I confront my boyfriend about being a mammas boy he normally ignores it and his excuse for not doing his own laundry is: “We all have teamwork in this family, I pity you for never being able to experience teamwork…. mom does laundry, cooking, etc and I do other chores”

What chores?

I found out he occasionally puts the dishes away and mows the lawn some of the time.

That is NOT teamwork. That is NOT what I want to end up having to be if I were to ever marry this man. I refuse to replace his mother. What if his mother were to suddenly die, I don't think this man would be able to care for himself. How sad! I've been doing my own laundry since I was 14 along with other chores I take TURNS with my parents when it comes to cooking dinner and putting it away. THAT is teamwork. I realize my dad is getting old and his arthritis hurts him so I've taken over a couple of his usual chores. I get so mad when my boyfriend calls his deal “teamwork” BULL SHIT.

I even just now remember this one time about a year and a half ago I said it would have been fun if he could have stayed at my place for a couple weeks while I had my own apartment @ school. He said… he couldn't because it wouldn't be safe for his mom to be alone. WTF… they live in AMISH country and they don't even lock their doors. BS.

I've mentioned many many times to my boyfriend how I am not happy with how he just lets his mom do everything for him… at first I started off subtle just hinting but for the last couple years I've been very blunt with what I have to say. Other than being a mammas boy he is a great guy and maybe I just haven't broken up with him yet… hoping he will one day change if not slowly. So far no luck and I fear our relationship is nearing an end.

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