What is Full Disclosure in Dating? Part-2

Thanks for those who commenting on What is Full Disclosure in Dating? Part-1. (Not too late to put in your two cents)…

From the comments many believe in full disclosure and believe it is an essential part of any and every relationship. Let’s dig a little deeper on this topic of full disclosure. I believe full disclosure also requires you to be honest with yourself.  Huh, now what do I mean by that? Well, let me tell you.  Let’s say you know you don’t want to date someone who is a workaholic. Oh, I guess I should have prefaced this with the fact that in order to be honest with yourself, you should have some kind of idea of what you want out of a relationship (that always helps).

So, you meet someone and you hit it off, but you realize or they tell you they’re a workaholic. First, there’s nothing wrong with being a workaholic, but if you are someone who needs a lot of time with your companion, then obviously dating or marrying a workaholic is going to create problems.  Here’s my question;  you KNOW you don’t want to date a workaholic, so do you all of a sudden change your mind and decide dating a workaholic is now ok? If you do change your mind; is it because you are hoping the other person will stop being a workaholic? Are you secretly hoping they’ll work less if you love them enough? Are you accepting anything for the sake of not being alone? What is the motivation behind this “change of heart”?

This is where the fine line of being honest or fooling yourself comes in. Why do we start relationships with people whom possess things, ways or habits we do not particularly like? Why do we think people will change those things once in a relationship with us? This is such a common mistake we all have made at one time or another, but many continue to make it. The whole point of full disclosure is to give both parties the opportunity to really know and understand what the other wants and to give both parties the chance to make the decision on whether or not they should move forward. If more people did that; there would no doubt be less divorce.

What are your thoughts on this? What have your experiences been?