What is Full Disclosure in Dating? Part-1

23 Mar

You will often hear me talk about full disclosure when dating. I feel it is an essential part of this whole dating game. What is full disclosure you ask? I’ll explain – it’s simple. It is the act of telling the person you’re dating what your intentions are and what you want. Why is this important you ask? For starters, no one is getting younger by the day and I personally hate having my time wasted and hate wasting the time of others. Let’s use an example:

WOMEN:
If you KNOW you are on a mission to find a husband and you are NOT into casual dating and do NOT want a booty call type relationship, then YOU SHOULD SAY THAT. It’s something I like to call being honest and there’s nothing wrong with it. Being honest can save you some time and weed out those men who don’t share your same wants and desires.

MEN:
If you KNOW you are only interested in casual dating (going out every now and then; nothing serious), then you should say that. Again, nothing wrong with being honest. It might actually spare you of some woman being to clingy because she THINKS you MIGHT want a relationship with her.

I believe dating is the time when people should actually talk about who they are and what they want. Too often, we skip the talking and get into something we never should have entered in the first place. Now wonder why the divorce rates are so high.

Do you believe in full disclosure or do you think withholding the truth is the best way to go? Share your thoughts with us. This is just part 1 in the discussion of full disclosure. There is more to come. So, join the conversation…

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  • Yes, full disclosure is vital so that you don't lead the other person on. As mentioned, life is short and if you believe that the relationship is going one way, when in fact it is not, you can waste some of the best years of your life chasing something that will never materialize.
  • full disclosure in dating is unsafe..
  • Full disclosure is a big no-no in the game of dating of course, and secrecy adds spice and thrill to it since the olden days, but not too much, because a healthy balance of both is always essential for safety.
  • Full disclosure is unrealistic - let's leave some facts to ourselves. :)
  • Guest
    dating is the time when people should actually talk about who they are and what they want
  • I agree. People should be honest, there are plenty of fishes to go around. And people should have integrity.
  • I always worry about that, though. When I arrived in VA in January, 1980, I was eager to date around (all my previous male acquaintances had been gay), and was thinking of doing a Junior Year Abroad. I met a gorgeous guy who was interested in hooking up. We changed our minds, though, and have been married since July, 1981. I'm worried that if we'd been upfront about our intentions, we would have felt pressured by what we'd promised the other, and would have missed a great relationship. So, yeah, never dishonest, but don't lock yourself into anything, either!
  • Yeah, I agree. I don't feel like full disclosure means making promises. It just means being honest about where you are at that particular time; ya know? Keeping the other person informed and allowing the other person to decide on if where you are is where they are or can meet you at, so you remain on the same page.

    Married since 1981 - You've already beaten many odds. Wishing you many more years..

    Thanks for commenting...
  • sue
    Not just dating, any relationship requires full disclosure for the good of all the parties involved. Would you go buy a car without knowing, checking and verifying that it meets the absolute minimum of your requirement? I am not trying to equate car buying to dating but all our human relationship do require honesty which sustains the relationship.
  • Absolutely, any and every relationship requires full disclosure. The key is to provide full disclosure at the beginning of the relationship so you don't end up making the wrong decision about whether or not you should really be with that person.

    We appreciate your comment..
  • Deanna McNeil
    I am a big believer in "just saying it". It has ended some relationships quickly and caused others to blossom. I sincerely believe that full disclosure indicates respect from the outset toward the other person.
  • The fact "just saying it" may cause a "relationship" to end quickly is what I think people fear, which stops them from being honest anf forthright from the beginning. It's crazy because it almost says, you want what may not be right for you.

    Thaks for commenting on this post..
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