Unwritten Rules of Relationships

We are pleased to announce the upcoming launch of our Unwritten Rules of Relationships radio show. We had to cancel our first scheduled show due to a family emergency, but we’ll be setting up another show very soon, so stay tuned.

Here’s a glimpse of what we’ll be talking about:

The Unspoken Truths in Dating:
Are people really honest about what they say when they’re dating; ARE YOU? Do you believe in full disclosure when going through the dating game or do you believe some things are better left unsaid. Are you honest and upfront about what you want and expect? All this week on The Unwritten Rules of Relationships.. Check out our blog for more information on this topic – http://www.unwrittenrulesofrelationships.com

Thanks for those who commenting on What is Full Disclosure in Dating? Part-1. (Not too late to put in your two cents)…

From the comments many believe in full disclosure and believe it is an essential part of any and every relationship. Let’s dig a little deeper on this topic of full disclosure. I believe full disclosure also requires you to be honest with yourself.  Huh, now what do I mean by that? Well, let me tell you.  Let’s say you know you don’t want to date someone who is a workaholic. Oh, I guess I should have prefaced this with the fact that in order to be honest with yourself, you should have some kind of idea of what you want out of a relationship (that always helps).

So, you meet someone and you hit it off, but you realize or they tell you they’re a workaholic. First, there’s nothing wrong with being a workaholic, but if you are someone who needs a lot of time with your companion, then obviously dating or marrying a workaholic is going to create problems.  Here’s my question;  you KNOW you don’t want to date a workaholic, so do you all of a sudden change your mind and decide dating a workaholic is now ok? If you do change your mind; is it because you are hoping the other person will stop being a workaholic? Are you secretly hoping they’ll work less if you love them enough? Are you accepting anything for the sake of not being alone? What is the motivation behind this “change of heart”?

This is where the fine line of being honest or fooling yourself comes in. Why do we start relationships with people whom possess things, ways or habits we do not particularly like? Why do we think people will change those things once in a relationship with us? This is such a common mistake we all have made at one time or another, but many continue to make it. The whole point of full disclosure is to give both parties the opportunity to really know and understand what the other wants and to give both parties the chance to make the decision on whether or not they should move forward. If more people did that; there would no doubt be less divorce.

What are your thoughts on this? What have your experiences been?

You will often hear me talk about full disclosure when dating. I feel it is an essential part of this whole dating game. What is full disclosure you ask? I’ll explain – it’s simple. It is the act of telling the person you’re dating what your intentions are and what you want. Why is this important you ask? For starters, no one is getting younger by the day and I personally hate having my time wasted and hate wasting the time of others. Let’s use an example:

WOMEN:
If you KNOW you are on a mission to find a husband and you are NOT into casual dating and do NOT want a booty call type relationship, then YOU SHOULD SAY THAT. It’s something I like to call being honest and there’s nothing wrong with it. Being honest can save you some time and weed out those men who don’t share your same wants and desires.

MEN:
If you KNOW you are only interested in casual dating (going out every now and then; nothing serious), then you should say that. Again, nothing wrong with being honest. It might actually spare you of some woman being to clingy because she THINKS you MIGHT want a relationship with her.

I believe dating is the time when people should actually talk about who they are and what they want. Too often, we skip the talking and get into something we never should have entered in the first place. Now wonder why the divorce rates are so high.

Do you believe in full disclosure or do you think withholding the truth is the best way to go? Share your thoughts with us. This is just part 1 in the discussion of full disclosure. There is more to come. So, join the conversation…